One of my takeaways from Ann Romney's book was the idea of a well-list. I love the idea of setting a wide range of goals that will help me see progress towards Well, even if it's a different kind of well than before.
Two things I've struggled with through all of this have been: the disappointments of so many things I've missed, and that the energy I do have on good days is used up for health stuff and doctor visits.
I'm hoping that this list will help me track the growing list of things I am able to do and also help me prioritize the time and energy for the 'fun' things that are just as important to my well-being as the stuff filed under 'regular medicine'.
A couple ground-rules:
1. The point is not to suffer through something just to cross it off. There are several items I am certain I could do tomorrow with the right amount of migraine meds and willpower. The point is to be well enough to enjoy these and not at the expense of several days/weeks of recovery.
2. Accomplishing a goal on the list doesn't cross it off! I hope to be able to add multiple check marks to each one, and look forward to celebrating each attempt as the success it is.
So here we go, folks, in completely random order... (btw I accomplished one of these over the Holiday Hiatus, can you guess which one?)
The Well-List, Edition 1:
- 5k race
- Sprint Triathlon
- Ability to run 1 mile three times a week for a month (weirdly specific, but it would mean I was on my way back to being a runner.)
- Try a new recipe (muchos gracias to my future sister in law who gave me some help with this one for Christmas, without even knowing it was on my list!)
- Attend a small-venue music concert (I think I've only been to two in the past two years, and each time was border-line terrible and I had to sacrifice a couple days for it.)
- Attend a symphony concert
- Attend a big 'rock' concert (can I tell you how much it hurts my heart that I didn't get to see Garth Brooks last year? So Much...)
- Day-trip to a small town
- A weekend city trip to someplace like NY or Boston
- Visit a state I haven't been to before
- Eat at a new (to me) restaurant
- Learn a Piano piece (which will also hopefully help my right-hand motor coordination issues, and my general coordination issues doing different things with different hands. My right hand is much stronger than a year ago when I had trouble paying catch with the dog, but trying to get back into violin is fraught with emotional baggage. Being terrible at Piano is not nearly as demoralizing.)
- Re-learn a favorite violin piece (or learn a new one from scratch)
- Attend the Little Cedar Grocery bluegrass pickin' as a participant
- Start a part-time job... and a full-time job...
- Visit extended family in places near and far
- Acts of service (The homeless shelter, tutoring, Habitat...)
- Watch a movie in a movie theater (fun fact: I haven't seen a movie in a movie theater since 2012. There's the lights and the noise, and migraines and the dizziness.. and the fact that going to the theater means that I'm not at home on the couch in my PJ's....)
- A trip out of the country (Ireland and Macchu Picchu have been on my life-list for a long long time)
- Visit an Art museum (which is more difficult than you'd think -- It sounds like it would be an easy activity -- quiet, etc.. but when you think about it, it's a *ton* of walking).
- Attend a basketball game (this one is as tricky as a big rock concert.. there's the crowd and the noise, and at pro games, tons of laser lights and exploding score boards.. it's just easier to cheer from my cozy couch with gameday slippers.)
- Complete an online class (Coursera Data Science, or programming, or other online learning.)
It seems like a lot, and it is. And I'm realizing now that a lot of them are big-reach items, I might have to add some smaller goals.. But for the most part these are the things that I feel like I've missed the most for the past few years, and it helps to put them down in writing. If they are out in the world in print, it's easier to let go a little bit, and focus on the near-term, and the one or two things to call NEXT.